It’s not always easy to cope in life. No matter the circumstances of your upbringing, your genetics, or your environment, anyone could be struggling. If you have survived the hardest challenges and overcame your difficulties, you might be left with scars on your arms. Those physical ones that you might be embarrassed about. Or you simply don’t wish to discuss them with random strangers or your friends and colleagues at work.
What are Self-Harm Scars?
Self-harm is when you hurt yourself on purpose. You usually do it because something else feels wrong. It seems like the only way to let those feelings out.
For those of you reading this without having a first-hand experience with self-harm you might think this is very rare, but it’s actually very common behavior in young people. It affects around one in 12 people, with 10% of 15-16-year-olds self-harming.
Why do people self-harm?
If you self-harm, it is usually a result of another problem. It can happen if you are feeling anxious, depressed, stressed, or bullied and feel you don’t have any other way of dealing with these issues.
Self-harming can bring some temporary relief. Sometimes it feels like no one understands why you self-harm, but lots more people today know about what the condition really means.
Ways people self-harm
- Cutting or carving into your skin
- Burning your skin
- Picking or scratching at your skin
- Biting yourself
- Pulling your hair
- Eating poison
- Exercising excessively
- Over-eating or under-eating
- Inserting objects into your body
- Hitting yourself or walls
- Misusing alcohol, prescription, and recreational drugs
- Having unsafe sex
- Getting into fights where you know you will get hurt
Scars that are a result of self-harm
Self-harm scars are the results of intentionally hurting yourself, whether that’s cutting, burning, or scratching your skin. These scars usually appear as lines, which are scattered in no particular order or they can appear to be a pattern. Some people have very small and thin self-harm scars, and others can have large and deep scars, that can sometimes become raised due to excessive collagen.
Impact of Self-Harm Scars
Although self-harm may provide a temporary feeling of relaxation and stress, the consequences of self-harm behavior can be life-changing. If you self-harm by cutting or burning, there will be scars left on your body. These scars can trigger painful memories and are often seen as socially unacceptable.
If you are having a hard time dealing with your self-harm scars, it’s important to seek professional help to develop coping techniques and build resilience.
The arms, legs, and torso are the most common areas where people self-harm. Some people can self-harm in more than one way. People who self-harm say that their scars bring them shame and embarrassment, making them want to hide their bodies out of fear of being stared at, judged, or ridiculed by others.
If you decide you would like to remove self-harm scars or minimize their appearance, you can first try less invasive treatments such as camouflage makeup or covering self-harm scars with clothing or bracelets.
In this article, I will explain methods on how to hide or conceal these scars.
How to conceal self-harm scars
It’s not possible to completely remove or erase self-harm scars, but there are many ways you can use to minimize or camouflage their appearance. To prevent judgments and unwanted attention from people, you can first try to conceal your self-harm scars. There are quite a few affordable ways to conceal or hide your scars.
Skin-Tone Bandages
You can use breathable skin-tone bandages to conceal your scars. These can also be waterproof and can stay on your skin all day. They come in some skin tones but definitely, it will be a bit more difficult to find an exact match for your skin.
Clothes
Wearing long-sleeves can hide your self-harm scars, so you don’t have to be confronted by colleagues, friends, and family. During the summer months when it gets hot you can try wearing light fabrics such as linen clothing, sheer tops, and fine lace cardigans. There is also plenty of choices to buy long-sleeve swimwear.
Bracelets
You can hide the scars on your arms with bracelets. There are countless options and styles available. This approach is more useful for smaller self-harm scars on the lower end of your arms.
Camouflage Make-up
If you wanted to wear a specific dress or attire for a special occasion or you just feel like wearing short sleeves, you can try camouflage make-up. This is the same type of make-up that is used in theatres where the make-up is of such quality, that it can create illusions and completely cover up all sorts of things. In the same way, it can create an illusion of a scar or a wound, it can completely conceal tattoos and scars.
There are a lot of professional make-up providers on the market, but you might not have the knowledge of how to apply it properly to achieve the desired results. I would suggest making an appointment with a camouflage make-up artist so that they can show you step by step how to use camouflage makeup to conceal your scars. You can then practice at home.
Tattooing Over Scars
There have been a lot of successful stories of people using tattoos to cover up their scars, most often self-harm scars. If you like the idea of turning your scars into art then this might be the answer for you. To make sure this is successful you need to find a tattoo artist that specializes in these types of tattoos and has previous experience. The tattoo artists will also suggest the right colors and
Another example would be self-harm scars and tattoo cover-ups. Although this method works for many scar types, it can cause more scarring if the scar being covered is a keloid scar. If the keloid scar is new, then the individual must wait at least a year before covering it up with a tattoo.
Medical Tattooing or Micro-Pigmentation
Permanent micro-pigmentation or medical tattooing is a technique where a practitioner implants a custom color pigmentation into the dermal layer of your skin. This way they can create 3D realistic visual reproductions of lost tissue areas.
Medical Tattooing can help with the long-term visible effect, but it will never remove the scar. It may improve the discoloration and the texture of the scar.
The layers of skin implanted with a colored pigment will take away the whiteness of the scarring, and help to make the whole area less noticeable. This is called scar camouflage.
To promote optimal healing you need to protect the treated area from the sun, cosmetics, and water. If you look after your skin then your medical tattoo will last between 3 and 5 years and can be refreshed if needed.
Other Ways to Manage Your Self-Harm Scars
If you are looking for more than just concealing or hiding your self-harm scars, then you can try one of the scar removal treatments. While no method will be able to erase your scars, you can achieve a great improvement in how your scars look. It will help you move on and come to peace with your past.
Thinking of my own experience when I underwent reconstructive surgery which helped improve the look of my scars, it has been a tough decision but so worth it. A heavy burden fell off my shoulders and I can go on with my life feeling lighter.
You can read my personal story of dealing with scars in my book Living With Scars.
Read more interesting articles on scars:
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- A Fresh Start – How My Life Transformed After Scar Surgery
- My Scars Before and After Skin Graft Surgery
- Temporary Tattoo to Cover Your Scars on Special Occasions
- Two Years After My Skin Graft Surgery
- Medical Tattooing for Scars
- How to Hide your Scars in Summer?
- Using Tattoos to Cover Scars
- 10 Best Scar Creams You Can Use in 2023
- Movies about Self-Harm
- Using Stem Cells to Remove Burn Scars
- What You Shouldn’t Say if You See Self-Harm Scars
- What are Burn Scars and How to Treat Them
- Are Scars Permanent?
- How a Skin Graft Surgery Changed the Appearance of my Scars
This is extremely helpful tysm!!
i look at my scars on my arms,legs,hips,biceps n all i see is how i am a disappointment. ppl make fun of other ppl for self harming or their scars but they don’t see how that person is in pain or why they do it. ppl called me an attention seeker when they found out abt me cuttin my arms. i cut bc i feel like there’s nothin else that i can do to make the pain go away or to punish myself. i been to a mental hospital my parents sent me to the mental hospital when they found out i self harm n i tried committing suicide 12 times. i see my friends faces when they see my arms it hurts me but i do it so the pain go always i don’t do it for attention trust me i don’t want that i get called ugly,fat,worthless whore i get called all those names n ppl tell me to j do it already n kms ppl don’t understand how words can affect someone sm. i act fine infront of fam n my friends n anyone else so they don’t see that i am not ok i keep telling myself that i am fine but i neva believe it… but this is the longest time i have been clean for n it’s 19 days
Hi
So sorry that you are going through this, but know that there are others out there who have been through the same and overcame it. Please reach out to someone you can trust, it can be family but it’s best to also contact a professional to help you. They can put steps in place for you to follow and remember everyone is on their own unique journey
Thank you for sharing on ways to hide self harm scars. I started cutting after my mom died. My marriage was already falling apart. I needed to feel something else, other than the pain I was feeling inside. Cutting myself was empowering to me. I felt I was in control of feeling physical pain, but the emotional pain was so much more. So I needed to cut more.
For years I hated showing my arms. I wore long sleeves all the time. it’s very hot here so people noticed and stared a lot. Some were very rude.
After 10 years of not cutting, I’m still self conscious about my scars. They do remind me that I am a survivor. Every scar has a story. Too me, they are a part of me and always will be.
Thank you for sharing your journey Michelle! Your resilience is inspiring and owning your story is the right way forward. I wish you all the best, you are awesome!
hi im Zy. im 13 years old and ive been cutting myself since i was 6 and burning myself since i was 8. my family dont see that im okay. im so close to giving up. im staying alive for 3 people. My girlfriend Ne’Vaeh, my big sister Alaysia, and my 8 month old niece Mii’Jream.
But at this point im so done. im done. thanks for listening🙂❤️
Hi,
please reach out for support from a crisis line, they will be able to listen and help: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines
Stay safe
Thanx soo much I’m 12 I’ve been cutting ever since I was 7 thank you so much I appreciate this very much!!!
You guys out there please stay safe and not do what I did for 5 years stay safe